Thursday, November 6, 2014

What matters to you?

Our grandchildren, Olivia who is 6 and Casey, who is 4 were visiting recently.  Several adults had the discussion on whether it is appropriate to correct children who may not be your own.  I am outspoken and have often done this impulsively.  In hindsight, I should wait until a parent or grandparent can intervene if they are present.  If they don't say anything, I will speak up, especially if the child is at my house or in my yard.  I guess that when I (or anyone) does this, they assume that they have the same values and standards as the parent(s). I am amazed that some parents do not think that their child should be respectful to adults.  They do not correct their child when that child calls others "stupid" or they do not correct the child when they mock the beverages that are in the fridge or the toys in the toy box.  Do children behave this way because they see it modeled by someone important in their life.  Does someone in their life feel superior because of  education and yearly income?  So I come to the question: What matters in life to you?  My brother Bruce told the story of he and our cousin standing on the overpass in Epping, spitting on the bums who were riding the rails.  When he told our Dad about the incident, Dad simply said "those bums are people too and deserve your respect".  What a wonderful value Dad taught us!!!  Thanks Dad (and Mom) for your values and standards you passed on to us.  May we also convey them in kind ways to the next generations.
 


Here are some traits, values or standards that I think matter:
  • Honesty
  • Respect for elders and peers and those younger than you
  • Hard work (no matter what it is)--show up when you are expected
  • Caring for and about the universe--not littering, recycling, caring for other creatures
  • Making a difference either by the way we treat others or how we do our jobs
  • Volunteering--not just doing our jobs but helping out in tasks where you don't get paid
  • Standing up for what is right, respectfully speaking up when needed.
  • Listening and trying to understand others
  • Being kind
  • Using humor in the right way, not in ways that are hurtful
  • Not feeling superior--being humble 
Here are some things that I think do NOT matter:
  • Education can help you realize your dreams and maybe get you a better job but it does not make you more valuable
  • Status in the community does NOT make you more valuable. A homeless person has as much value as a CEO of a company.
  • The house you live in--we have lived in a beautiful, big, impressive house because we wanted to be able to have foster kids not because the house looked impressive. 
  • Age, weight, looks, sexual orientation, race --it's been hard to overcome prejudices when we have lived in such a WASP-y area but these things really do NOT make one person more valuable than another. 
Neither one of the above lists is all inclusive as there certainly may be other things that are important and there may be many more things that do NOT matter. 

I need to walk....

In long term care we must have "care plans" for all of our residents.  These are the goals that are set by staff, the resident and family or significant others.  They are usually related to health or care concerns but sometimes they list preferences for the resident.  A recent trend is to have "I" care plans that state the goals/wishes in the first person such as "I want to keep my blood sugar within normal range." or "I want to lose weight."  In cases where someone is restless, the "I" care plan may say "I want/need to walk".  This is a reminder to staff that they should ensure that a resident has a place to walk that is free of obstructions and that if they need assistance in walking, that someone is there to help.  If the resident cannot tell us what is important to them, we often talk to family and friends to find out what the resident enjoyed doing in the past. 


The point of the first paragraph is to introduce my love of walking.  I just read an exercise blog today that said "do what you love" and your exercise routine will be more successful.  I love to walk.  I need to walk.  More importantly I need to do it outside where  I can see, smell and feel the outdoors!!  I have been a sporadic walker for over 35 years.  I started walking for stress control, not for weight management as many people do. It was also my alone, thinking time when my life was much busier than it is now.   In the last 10-15 years, I have gotten in the habit of listening to books while I walk.  This combines my love of reading with my love of walking.  Listening to books or music can impede my hearing of nature sounds but I will occasionally turn off the book to hear geese honking or most recently to hear an elk bugle.   My love of walking has returned with a vengeance after I  recovered from my double knee replacement surgery in April.   I have been wearing a fitness band for 10 months and am currently walking 12000 steps or about 4.5 miles a day.  I love it!!  I am ready to increase my walking to 14000 steps a day except for one problem....North Dakota weather.  Several days this week I have had to wear my down filled coat and a scarf across my face because of the wind.  When there is ice or snow, I may not be able to walk outside because of the unsure footing.  Winter is coming, no doubt about it.  So I am longing to be in a warmer climate or in a less rural place where I could at least walk at a mall or fitness center. 


The other morning I woke up to the wind howling and thought some very negative thoughts:
  • I won't be able to walk outside today
  • It's going to be so cold
  • I hate North Dakota wind and cold weather
  • I could walk on the elliptical but I would rather not
  • and most ridiculous of all....This has got to be Arden's fault!
I had read that when you walk, you should walk with a smile because it lifts your spirits.  Most days I grin for the whole hour that I walk.  I love that I am stronger.  I love that my knees don't hurt.  I love the sights and smells of rural North Dakota....in all seasons.  So I decided to go for my walk despite my negative thoughts and the wind and I discovered that my negative thoughts were SO wrong.  How often does that happen---that my negative fears and worries are SO wrong.  It wasn't nearly as cold as it sounded and it was a great walk!!


What do you love to do?
Are your negative thoughts leading you into a downward spiral and how often are they proven wrong? 



Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Double knee replacement surgery helpful hints

This post comes with the disclaimer that this is from my perspective only and what worked for me, may not work for you!  On April 23rd I had double knee replacement surgery in Fargo, ND. The surgery was on Wednesday and I was discharged on Saturday. Arden and I decided that I should spend a week with Kirsten, Joey and Steph because therapy could come right to their house. They graciously moved a recliner to their living room, gave me Olivia's bedroom and waited on me hand and foot. So now nearly 8 weeks later, what have I learned from 
  1. Many people ask me why I had them both done at once. Both knees were equally bad and I wanted only one hospitalization and recovery time.  My sister Kay had both knees replaced at once at about my same age and she had an excellent recovery. She is my inspiration! 
  2. How to decide where and when to have surgery? I originally scheduled my surgery for Minot but the surgeon was hesitant to do both knees at once so I changed to Fargo where Dr Matthys assured me he would do both at once unless there were problems with my blood pressure, heart or  with the anesthesia.  Two of our daughters live in Fargo and their house could accomodate me with few stairs if we decided I would stay there for some therapy. Our house at Van Hook has a lot of stairs.
  3. Although it hurts,  do all of the recommended therapy and more if possible! Hurting is short term and it's so important to think long term and to aim for the best function possible. I had good range of motion prior to surgery so my therapy progressed well with few glitches. I spent a week in Fargo following discharge from the hospital because the therapy group I contacted said they would come right to the house. Exercise start prior to surgery to get you used to doing them and to make sure you have as good a range of motion as possible. I did the exercises described in the information from the doctor for about a month prior to surgery and also made a pre-op visit to the therapy group. I chose them simply because their office was close to my daughters house. After I spent a week in Fargo with therapy coming to the house, I went to Stanley which was a half hour drive from our house. The therapists had very different approaches. The one in Fargo moved my knees for me...often pushing so hard that I cried. The therapist in Stanley asked me to show her what I could do and she was always amazed and didn't have to push me any further.  I had some nausea from my pain medications so had to cancel a couple of sessions.  In addition I continued to do exercises on my own and to work hard at being independent in walking with a walker, dressing and bathing myself. The therapist in Stanley simply asked me to bend as far as I could and it hurt but I made huge progress.  My goals were to walk without a cane and to reach 120 degree bend in both knees and to also be able to have my knees flat against the mat. I reached these goals by week 4 so I was discharged from therapy. I continue to ride a stationary bike 15 minutes, twice a day and to work on balancing on one leg. I pedal the bike both forwards and backwards.  I will add short walks to this regime.  Whenever my knees start to feel "tight", I know I need to stretch them more. 
  4. Needed equipment included a toilet riser, bath stool, and a walker.  They were essential for the first couple of weeks. I also needed a sock aide for putting on the compression stockings and ice for my knees. The hospital sent home ice buckets connected to pads and a pump...these worked well but someone had to fill and hook up the buckets for me. The first couple of weeks, therapy and a shower were all I accomplished and I was wiped out from those tasks.  If you are a "doer", it seems odd (and somehow lazy) to only accomplish those two things and to sit the rest of the day.  It's ok, it's what your body needs for healing. 
  5. Loneliness and boredom were huge problems. With other surgeries, all I had to do was to take the pain meds and sleep or rest. Even though I was weak, I started feeling better after 10-14 days. With joint replacement I had to work at my therapy as well as take pain meds and rest. It is best not to push yourself too much as that will cause more pain and swelling and healing needs to happen.  The key is to find the right balance.  Regardless, there are huge chunks of time for watching TV and playing on the computer and it gets old. My attention span was short so reading a book or even watching a movie was difficult.  I had friends and relatives visit but I didn't always feel up to that either. The 30 minute trip to Stanley for therapy was difficult at times as my legs always felt best when they were elevated. The 5 hour  trip home from Fargo was brutal. The truth is that I was the only one who could go thru this. Arden (and others) empathized and wanted to help but I had to do it and endure it.  It was kind of like being in labor....no one else can do it for you and you just have to get thru it. Sometimes the best part of the day was bed time because I could say I made it thru another day and I knew I was another day  closer to full recovery!
  6. The biggest eye opener was how painful this was and how long I was in considerable pain. I wish I hadn't worried about being on pain killers. I tried to reduce them almost as soon as I got out of the hospital....BIG MISTAKE! Because I am a nurse, I have seen people who were addicted to pain meds or who were still wimping out years after surgery. I was NOT going to be that person. In hindsight I would have taken both the short and long term narcotics as often as possible for the first month. I was nauseated and had no appetite and lost 20 pounds in the first month but that was ok because I needed to lose weight too. Many narcotic pain meds also cause constipation and dry mouth and fogginess but they provide blessed relief and sleep and that's what you need.  I have a high pain tolerance and found that I didn't always recognized that I was having pain.  One day I found myself shivering with cold and it finally dawned on me that I was in pain.  I didn't always recognize that restlessness was a big sign of pain too.   
  7. I did stop all narcotic pain medication at about 5 weeks and that was when I started to have trouble sleeping.  This lasted about 3 weeks and led to many long nights.  I tried ZZZquil with little relief.  Melatonin helped me to get deeper sleep so I felt refreshed.  Prior to surgery I would easily get 8-9 hours of sleep.  After I stopped the narcotics, I was only getting 5-6 hours of sleep.  I tried not to nap during the day because I wanted my sleep to come at night.  Sometimes I had trouble falling asleep and sometimes I would fall asleep only to wake up an hour later and not be able to go back to sleep.  I also seemed to have restless legs which I had had in the past for which I took iron.  I had stopped taking the iron because of my nausea.  The nausea went away when I didn't take the narcotics so I was able to start the iron again.  I also started Magnesium supplements and took over the counter pain medications, used topical ointments such as Icy Hot and sometimes just got up and played computer games until I felt sleepy again.  During this time I slept in another bed because I didn't want my restlessness to wake my husband.  I tossed and turned until my bed looked like a tornado.  There is lots of talk of this sleeplessness on the internet but few answers.  I am now sleeping 7-8 hours a night but often wake up 6-8 times sometimes for up to an hour.  At least I feel human and am able to think during the day which I couldn't do before.  So if you have had knee replacement surgery or are thinking of it, just hang in there, it will get better.  My surgeon said that most people don't thank him until they reach the 3 month mark so we will see if this is true.  God Bless you in your journey!!

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Retirement

My family teases me that I have come out of retirement three times....I have done this to do interim nursing home administration work. From March-May of 2013 I helped the Good Samaritan Society at Crosby ND to transition to being community owned...St Lukes Community Living Center. It was a huge amount of work getting policies and procedures and equipment and benefits in line for the new entity.   At this writing, I have now been retired for over 7 months.  It has been tougher than I thought and it is also wonderful.  We both had busy, stressful and successful careers.  Here are some things we have learned:
1/ We have had to adjust our finances. No one really knows how they will manage financially until they try it.  We were drawing from our pensions to make ends meet and with the help of our investment counselor, decided I should start getting Social Security.  If we hadnt decided to do this, we would have exhausted our pensions.  So my advice is to have a financial counselor and talk thru your unique issues.
2/ There are 2 unique seasons in our little fishing village.  Summer...which is crazy...full of activity and company and we love it!  Winter....very quiet and remote.  Arden likes to visit ice fishing houses and hang out with his buddies at the bar....me, not so much.  I like to quilt, read, spend time with kids, grandkids (who are 5 hours away) and my sisters...if the weather is bad, it is hard to travel or get supplies for my hobbies.  There has been some adjustments.  I have found another woman who lives here full time to have coffee with.  I have talked to Arden about my frustration and he has listened and makes sure I get to travel to kids and sisters.  Thank goodness to Amazon.com where I can download books and order supplies as needed.
3/ It's ok for us to have separate interests and schedules. This helps us to appreciate each other more and to treasure the things we like to do together.  We will soon spend 3 weeks together in Arizona...after football season and as ice fishing draws to a close.
4/ We work together on chores in the house.  We both love keeping our new home together.
5/  We don't need to eat three meals a day.  Breakfast and coffee together and one other big meal with snacks in between. Gone are the days of 3 big meals when we were working full time.  Another great benefit of retirement is having time for exercise and fitness.  We have an elliptical and I can safely say that Arden is in the best shape of his life and I am focusing on a healthier 2014.

So, if you are thinking of retirement, you can try semi-retirement for awhile or just jump right in. Have fun working through the issues with the ultimate goal of enjoying the retirement you worked so hard for!

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Dad's death just 20 months after Mom

My granddaughter Olivia has started to sing little songs and do different things and she often tells her parents “My grandma taught me that”. I think last week she wiped her nose on her sleeve and said “My grandma taught me that!” Dad had a pretty public life but here are some things that my Dad taught me that you may not know about:

1. He liked to go shopping—especially for shoes, would often shop in catalogues.
2. Loved kids, watching them and teasing them
3. Lived his Christianity, didn't preach it
4. Loved his career of farming
5. Loved nature
6. Loved to travel
7. Loved his heritage—Proud to be a Dane
8. Hard worker—sometimes I’ve cursed the good work ethic that he taught us
9. Took pride in his appearance (Pastor called him “dapper”)
10. Proud of his family
11. Not afraid to show emotion
12. Enjoyed a good argument but wasn’t mean
13. Loved to play cards—awesome Whist player, remembered who played what
14. Loved to read
15. Sports, baseball, golf, tried water skiing at 70
16. Loved music
17. Loved to dance
18. Liked to play
19. Gambling—loved to go to the casino and was incredibly lucky
20. Loved animals, especially black labs
21. Respectful and listened to opposing opinions
22. Was generous
23. Cared deeply about those less fortunate
24. Stayed politically active his whole life
25. Had passion for his causes even when criticized
26. Gave of his time even when it wasn't convenient
27. Believed in the value of education
28. Good mechanic and carpenter without training
29. Smart..skipped several grades in school
30. Story teller and we will miss his stories so much
31. Good neighbor
32. Lifelong learner.. got the Mayo newsletter, read about dementia so he knew what to do when mom got restless, read about diabetes and hearing loss
33. Believed in Cooperatives and educated us in their importance. Curt farms, Alyce married to Farmers Union insurance agent, Val married to Co-op elevator manager, Bruce works at Co-op credit union, Kay married to a farmer, Tilford worked at a Co-op tire store
34. Loved Mom’s cooking and nothing else ever was quite like hers. We didn’t have much pineapple, raisins or green beans in our house but had plenty of Maple Nut Ice Cream and fried potatoes with grape jelly
35. Waited awhile to get married (age 29) and found the love of his life. He either gave her a fancy mirror and brush set for Christmas or a very feminine watch. Often bought her little gifts or wrote her sweet notes.

How many of us remember if the house we grew up in had dust on the shelves or under the beds or matching silverware on the table. What I remember is that my mother and father had a passion for books and reading and that they told us when we were young that they were saving money for college. I also remember the celebrations we had as each child reached a milestone in their education. I remember the heated discussions at the supper table and it was only when I was older that I realized that Dad was upset because of some social injustice and he wondered why other people didn’t take as passionate an interest in these injustices as he did. I remember them taking time out of their busy schedules to serve on community boards or teach a class. They allowed us to use our imaginations whether it was I turning the kitchen into a grocery store or the garage into a race track with our various roller skates, bikes and doll buggies. I remember my father teaching me how to waltz at a father daughter event in high school. I remember parents who took us to church every Sunday. They taught us the value of hard work but also the value of recreation when they took us to the Seattle World’s Fair, state fairs or the Farmers Union card party. They told us we were important whether they took time to wash and iron the curtains in our play house or to saddle a pony.

Our house was very much like many other houses. What made it unique was Alvin and Stella, who inhabited it for over 60 years. T was there that they lived out their faith, nurtured their family and opened their home to friends and relatives. As we hear the stories, we siblings are reminded of the privilege of being a part of life in that old house. The people who lived there made the difference. That’s true for all of us as we live in our houses, work in and engage in our places of employment, our churches, our social and community relationships. The difference we make impacts others. The difference we make may result in good and happy memories for others, or unpleasant ones. Perhaps one of my strongest memories is when Dad decided to get confirmed as an adult. It takes courage to publicly profess your faith. As followers of Jesus we are called to live in ways that move others to do likewise and to give thanks for the way we have reflected the love, grace and goodness of God. My prayer is that you and I will leave that kind of legacy. I believe I hear God saying “well done, good and faithful servant.”
Kathy Mattea sings a song called “Whose Gonna Know But Me?’
On the top of my desk mid the clutter and dustSits an old eight by ten black and whiteIt's one of my favorite pictures of us I'll carry with me all my lifeI must have been about five or sixMom's hair was still brown and dad's was still thickBut to look at it now sometimes I get scaredTo think that today they are no longer hereCause who's gonna know but me who'll help me recall those small memoriesWhen we’re all that's left of this family who's gonna know but meDown in the cellar under the steps sits an old box of junk that I've savedNewspaper clippings letters and cards even some code-a-phone tapesSlices of life I can hold in my hand and show to my kids so they might understandIn those years to come when they ask me some nightWhat grandma and grandpa used to be likeCause who's gonna know but me...If life were a video I could rewindI'd go back and slow down each moment in timeThen I'd disconnect the fast forward buttonSo I'd have forever to tell 'em I love 'emThe older I get I can't get enough of 'emCause who's gonna know but me...
Rest in peace Dad. We love you and we miss you. We know you’re dancing with Mom and hugging Shirley. Well done good and faithful servant….

Saturday, February 20, 2010

My Mother

Yesterday, was my mother's funeral. She was not perfect although we've practically canonized her this week. She was a remarkable woman and survived unbelievable hardships especially in her childhood. She was an extremely hard worker and had trouble adjusting to not working. She was a VERY generous woman--selfless really--there was no part of her that would understand the "me " generation. She was sweet and funny. I miss her so much. I share her love of quilting and music and reading and poetry. As a child, I often saw the "drill sargeant" side of her. Now that I am a mother and grandmother, I understand that military mode especially when there are so many tasks to be accomplished. I am amazed at everything she did and how she loved especially when she lost her own mother at such a young age so how did she learn how to be this wonderful mother and grandmother? It's going to be hard to go back to work and back to reality when I would rather curl up in bed for another week or so. I am so proud of my daughter Stephanie (who was named after Grandma Stella). She gave a moving eulogy. Mom--there'll never be another you.

Monday, February 1, 2010

How to live to 100 and enjoy it

Over 40 years ago, I saw a poster of an old weather-worn cowboy with a caption that said “If I’d have known I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself”!!! It is a reminder to think about what we can do now to prepare ourselves for old age. Proverbs 22:6 says “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” I think that is telling us that we can learn good habits and learn to make good choices when we are young and they will help us as we grow older. That may be hard to do in this instant gratification world. Will my lab work that is not due for another 6 months influence whether I have a cheeseburger and fries today or is it too far in the future to worry about? Is anyone really responsible for their cholesterol or heart disease or their diabetes or can we just blame it all on genetics and not take any personal responsibility for our health?

In my 30+ years of experience in long term care, genetics does play a large part in people’s health AND taking care of yourself also plays a large part. If the genetics in your family is already not good, it is even MORE important to take care of yourself.

There are other things we can do to enjoy good health as we age. The New Scientist magazine at http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg19025541.500-how-to-live-to-100-and-enjoy-it.html?full=true&print=true has some tips on “How to live to 100…and enjoy it.” Here’s a summary of the article.
Go for the burn: Many researchers believe that small doses of "stressors" such as poisons, radiation and heat can actually be good for you - so good that they can even reverse the ageing process. The big unanswered question is at what dose does an otherwise harmful agent become beneficial? Clearly, too much radiation or poison are bad for you. However, there may be a safe way to trick your body's repair mechanisms into overdrive. Smith-Sonneborn and others suspect that the life-extending effects of exercise are also down to hormesis. She proudly practices what she preaches with an exercise regime that she says stresses her body to just the right level to get the optimum response. "I'm 70 and I have the bone density of a 35-year-old," she says.
Don't be a loner: Being sociable looks like one of the best ways to add years to your life. Relationships with family, friends, neighbors, even pets, will all do the trick, but the biggest longevity boost seems to come from marriage or an equivalent significant-other relationship.
Consider relocation: A recent study of elderly residents from a poor area of St Louis, Missouri, found that factors such as low air quality and dirty streets tripled the likelihood of their suffering from disabilities in later life. Likewise, a survey by Scottish newspaper The Scotsman in January found that people living in the poorest suburbs of Glasgow had a life expectancy of just 54 - three decades shorter than people in wealthier areas. Tom Perls, who heads the New England Centenarian Study at Boston University, represents the other end of the spectrum. He believes that while longevity may seem to run in families, environment accounts for up to 70 per cent of this effect. "Just because it's familial doesn't mean it's all down to genes," he says, because family members often share many environmental factors. He points to a group of Seventh Day Adventists in California whose lifespan averages 88, a decade more than the US average. They are genetically quite diverse, but share a lifestyle that includes vegetarianism, no smoking, no drinking, and with strong emphasis on family and religion, all of which can contribute to longevity. There is general agreement, however, that your physical location is less important than the personal environment you create through your behavior. You could move to the Japanese island of Okinawa, the world's number one longevity hotspot, but a better bet might be to live life the Okinawa way. "We boil it all down to four factors: diet, exercise, psycho-spiritual and social," says Bradley Willcox, a researcher with the Okinawa Centenarian Study.
Make a virtue out of a vice: One of the most informative studies of healthy ageing to date has been conducted at the convent of the School Sisters of Notre Dame in Mankato, Minnesota. The nuns there, around 1 in 10 of whom have reached their hundredth birthday, teach us that a healthy old age is often a virtuous one - which means no drinking or smoking, eating healthily and in moderation, and living quietly, harmoniously and spiritually. But clean living is not to everyone's taste. Besides, what is the point of living to 100 if you can't enjoy a few wicked indulgences? Assuming you will have some vices, the trick is to choose them wisely. The idea that one glass of wine a day is actually good for you is now ingrained in the popular consciousness. Another vice that you probably shouldn't fight too hard is sleep. Unless you can reset your body clock with lots of bright light and good discipline, fighting your natural lark or owl tendencies can be bad for your health. Your best bet if you are a chocolate lover is dark chocolate. Whatever your pleasure, the great news is that pleasure itself is good for you. Really good. Not only does it counteract stress, it also causes our cells to release a natural antibiotic called enkelytin. Whether it's chocolate, coffee, having a tipple or a flutter, a spot of sunbathing (with suncream), a romantic (or more carnal) encounter, or another form of sinful pleasure, think of it as self-medication. Just make sure that if you have a vice, you enjoy it.
Exercise the little gray cells: Study after study has shown that intelligence, good education, literacy and high-status jobs all seem to protect people from the mental ravages of old age and provide some resistance to the symptoms, if not the brain shrinkage, of dementia. Brain researchers and doctors are starting to refer to it as brain or cognitive reserve. Mental gymnastics are definitely on the agenda - everything from reading to learning new things to interacting with people rather than being a couch potato. But don't stop with mental exercises. At least one study has shown that older mice produced new brain cells faster and learned quicker than sedentary creatures when they were put on an exercise program. All this helps explain the remarkable mental health of those centenarian nuns, who fill their advancing years with both physical and mental activity, from gardening and crosswords to reading, walking, conversation and knitting.
Smile!: Centenarians have surprisingly little in common, but one thing most do share is their love of a laugh. People born with a sunny disposition cope better with stress, which increases their chances of reaching a ripe old age. The study of nuns in Minnesota reveals that those who had the most positive outlook on life during adolescence and young adulthood are also the healthiest in old age. Some people are born laid-back, but even if you are a natural stress bunny, there are things you can do to reduce your cortisol levels. "These include t'ai chi, exercise, having faith, meditation and yoga," laughing and smiling also reduce cortisol levels. A happier life is likely to be a longer one - and that's surely something to smile about.
Nurture your inner hypochondriac: One obvious piece of advice for anyone wishing to become a healthy centenarian is this: if you're sick, go see a doctor.
Watch what you eat: Metabolilc stability is the key to ageing. Eat up to at least 5 portions of fruit and vegetables daily. Eat foods high in antioxidants. There is strong evidence supporting the assertion that fresh fruit and vegetables, especially greens, keeps the brain sharp. A healthy diet is extremely important factor in longevity and eating high calorie, fat-laden foods is on e of the surest ways to an early grave.
Get a life: What you need is a bit of excitement along the way. Take some risks. Not only will new experiences bring you pleasure, you may also find they have added benefits. There is also plenty of evidence to indicate that the kind of buzz you get from traveling, learning a new language, completing a sudoku puzzle or creating your own artistic masterpiece helps delay the onset of neurodegenerative diseases, including Alzheimer's. Admittedly, some of the most thrilling - think mountaineering, cave diving or base jumping - are not entirely compatible with longevity, but maybe you can justify the risk by making a trade-off. If you smoke, quit now. Or cut down on some other major life-shortening habit such as binge drinking, reckless driving or cheeseburgers. Alternatively, if you want a thrill but cannot justify the risk, go for safer kicks such as fairground rides, amateur dramatics, a new lover or bungee jumping.